Want to learn how to kiss, but not sure where to start? This page is a complete resource for free guides and videos on kissing, from “how to kiss for virgins” to sexy kissing techniques, dealing with types of bad kissers, how to know if a kiss is welcome, how and when to give the first kiss and much more.
When you want to learn to kiss it’s tough to know where to find a good web page, a serious video, or even a book to teach you kissing techniques. Finding out how to do a first kiss can be even tougher, whether it’s your very first kiss ever or the first kiss you have with a special someone.
After years of research on kissing, you can now learn everything about how to kiss and much more with the books, videos and resources I’ve created, written and curated to teach you practical – and unforgettable – kissing techniques.
- Read my bestselling book Seal It With A Kiss ($10.36)
- Watch the Seal It With A Kiss video on YouTube with tips and techniques
- How Not to Kiss Like a Zombie: Em and Lo, on The Sundance Channel website
- Check out free chapters of Seal It With A Kiss for Kindle (Kindle version is $8.99)
- Read the original ebook, How To Kiss ($8.49)
- Get How To Kiss Audiobook ($8.49) and listen to it on any device
- Listen to my free How to Kiss: Types of Kisses podcast
My big kissing book Seal It With A Kiss has everything you need for deciding the context of kisses: from making the first moves to when kissing indicates sex, asking for a kiss without words, how to give the first kiss, dozens of kissing techniques and more. Even if you’re a makeout hotshot, do you know if your kisses are amazing? Seal It With A Kiss gives you the basics and fills in all the blanks, in every situation.
Do your homework – it’s fun! – if you want to be a drop-dead unforgettable kisser in every situation, from here on out. Urban Outfitters calls Seal It With A Kiss “The kissing bible.” The reviews are overwhelmingly positive, and Seal It With A Kiss has been translated into Russian and German.
Seal It With A Kiss is in print and on Kindle, and it is directed to a female audience. My ebook How to Kiss is for all audiences. The How To Kiss Audiobook can be played on all audio devices and individual chapters can be shared with friends. The How To Kiss eBook can be read on any device from your phone to iPad or Kindle, to any computer or device with a web browser. It can be passed between devices and shared with no limits. There will never be a print edition.
Everyone loves free stuff – especially me – so here’s a free chapter from the audio book How to Kiss: Chapter 4 (MP3). In it, I detail all the different types of kisses: the good, the bad, and the scary! Be prepared: in some places, I giggle uncontrollably – it was *that* kind of reading (the fun kind). The whole book is pretty sexed-up: it also features two very explicit short erotica stories with plenty of oral action. Enjoy!
How to Kiss: MP3 Audiobook ($8.49). Nine audio chapters explain exactly how to make the most of the first kiss – and get you all the way to (and through) the hottest makeout sessions. Learn the different types of kisses, find out if you’re a bad kisser, find out how to flirt using your mouth, kissing etiquette, erogenous zones, how to ask for a kiss with and without words and much more.
How to Kiss covers all kinds of kisses; first kiss, makeout tips, sweet nuzzly kisses, all-out French kissing and everything in between are in this nine-chapter, DRM-free MP3 audiobook. The book includes two explicit, kiss-focused erotic short stories from authors Thomas S. Roche and Oscar Shemoth. Read the Table of Contents here.
How to Kiss: eBook ($8.49). It’s the same as the audiobook, but as an ebook. Read the table of contents and full description (same as the audiobook, above) here.
All three book files come in a .zip! The DRM-free .pdf is especially formatted for easy iPhone, Kindle, iPad, computer or tablet reading.
Kissing is intimate, playful, sexy, sometimes serious and sometimes innocent. A kiss can tell you a lot about the person you’re kissing. I’ve authored two books about kissing and how to kiss. The complete guide to kissing for all ages is Seal It With A Kiss: Tips, Tricks and Techniques to Deliver the Knockout Kiss (also: Kindle). Urban Outfitters calls it “the kissing Bible.” My e-book mini-guide is adults-only, and only available in digital and audio versions and it is called How to Kiss — it also includes explicit kissing erotica.
Types of Bad Kissers
Online How-to
Kissing guides online are by no means complete (most of them are from people who don’t know how to explain things step-by-step), but are very helpful if you have no idea where to start. These could be called “kissing hacks” as they get to the point and provide no-frills instructions:
- WikiHow has a nice, simple step-by-step guide to romantic kissing, and platonic (non-romantic) kisses. They do not explain the context of these kisses. (wikihow.com)
- Instructables has a great, short how to kiss guide, with a very short video. As you can tell in the comments, it does not give instruction beyond the mechanics of a kiss. Also recommended is How to French Kiss and How to Make Out. (instructables.com)
Kissing Tips
Howcast made some great videos on kissing. Click the following links to watch the videos in a pop-up player; double click them to watch on YouTube:
- How to Get Someone to Kiss You
- How To Kiss With Passion
- How To Tell Your Boyfriend He’s a Bad Kisser
- How to be A Good Kisser
- How to Avoid A Kiss
- How to Get Rid of A Hickey
The first kiss can be scary
Frequently asked questions on kissing, asked by the delightful Em and Lo:
Em & Lo: Do you think good kissing chemistry is a reliable indicator of good sexual chemistry And is the reverse true, if the kissing is bad, do you think the sex is likely to be bad?
Violet Blue: When we first kiss, it’s often the moment we know — instantly — whether or not we “click” with someone’s chemistry. Our senses are fully engaged, and we’re truly drinking in everything; sight, taste, smell, feel, the sounds, the essence of the person we’re quite literally tasting. There are parts of us taking in and reacting to the person we’re kissing that we’re not even aware of, let alone in control of. It’s exciting! So if we can shut off our brains for a minute and listen to our bodies and intuition, kissing is a very reliable barometer for knowing if it’s going to be hot — or not.
If you want to deliver the first kiss, how can you tell that it’ll be welcome?
Besides asking sweetly? Well if you’re one of the lucky few who “just know” then you are indeed lucky, but if you’re like the rest of us, you’ll want to look for concrete signs and signals. When you’re ready to move in for the kiss, look to the lips to see if they’re clamped together and uninviting, or relaxed and ready for a kiss. See if the other person is unconsciously (or consciously) imitating your body language; mirroring means they’re ready to follow your lead. And check to see if they’re in close physical proximity, closer than ordinary. People who are desiring physical contact will gravitate to you, and place themselves a step closer than would be typical for acquaintances.
So if you’re too shy to deliver the first kiss, does this mean you can use body language to let someone know that a kiss would be welcome?
Yes! Make eye contact for a count of three to five seconds. If you dare, smile at the end of your count. Incline your head close, especially during eye contact. If that doesn’t work, try the eye contact count a second time and glance at their lips, then back to the eyes before smiling and looking away. If they still don’t get the hint, start your eye contact count, smile, and draw more attention to your lips by touching the corner of your mouth for a quick second with your finger. It’s your subliminal way of saying, “Right here, pal.”
What’s your favorite kind of kiss?
Mmmm, wow, what a question. I have so, so many that I enjoy. I love the sleepy morning kiss, soft and sweet with mouths closed and soft lips. I adore sweetheart kisses when in public and one of us is just getting up to get a coffee, a quick and tender “be right back” when you think no one is looking. Nothing in the world can really describe the first kiss when your senses go into overdrive, though I love trying to re-create it over and over with my favorite kissers! However, the versatility of the French kiss is sublime; and it’s incomparably arousing with the right partner.
What’s your favorite first kiss tip or tips?
A first kiss with a bit of flavor: right after nibbling on mint leaves, a delicious roast of coffee, the essence of chocolate, even a hint of whiskey.
What’s your favorite tip to improve kissing?
Practice! And kiss the way you want to be kissed. Also, keep good oral hygiene, practice on the sensitive palm of your (clean) hand to get a sense of sensation, remember to slow down (but don’t hold still; limp kissing is a common problem), don’t forget about the rest of your body, use your hands for affection, and learn to trust yourself to let go and really pour your passion into it once you get going.
What are some of the worst kissing faux-pas?
Ramming the tongue — well, anywhere — and kissing like you’re looking for loose change hidden in someone’s cheek, kissing while too drunk, bad breath, groping, slobbering, making scary animal noises while kissing, just generally chewing on someone’s face… it’s not a zombie movie, it’s a kiss. Oh, and having a crazy kissing humpfest in public. It annoys everyone else and the glamour is all in your head.
What are some overrated kissing gimmicks or novelty moves?
Pretending to present your cheek for a kiss and then turning your head. That’s the WORST! Argh! I’ve had that happen too many times, and it’s just sleazy and gross, and makes us feel like we’ve been duped! Do. Not. Do. This. Ever. But just sneaky surprise kisses in general. They work out great in the movies, but they seldom play out well in real life; it puts your kiss-ee in an awkward position.
And what are some underrated kissing gimmicks or novelty moves?
Asking for a kiss. It seems too obvious, but when they make me laugh, and then smile and say something like “I might deserve/need a kiss after that” it’s just… such a kissable move. And making it seem like a kiss is about to happen and then politely withholding it makes us want it even more (that works both ways). As for gimmicks, cooling down the mouth (with ice or a cool drink) or heating it up (with a hot beverage) right before a kiss can be an unforgettable surprise — in a very good way, that is.
So, do you believe that old song, “If you want to know if he loves you so, it’s in his kiss”? Does a kiss always tell the truth?
As far as love and kissing goes, our bodies might know if our chemistry clicks, but our hearts and brains tend to sing a different tune. You can’t tell if he’s the one, or if his love is true with a kiss; love is so much more than that, of course. But in many ways, kisses cannot tell a lie. You can tell if his feelings change with his kisses. If they aren’t the same (as in perfunctory) you will absolutely know he’s not that into you anymore — though if his kisses pack passion or tenderness with every pucker, even if they’re quick, then I hope you’re ready to break the news to your cat, your best friend, and maybe your momma.
Learn how to French kiss
Images from fun webcomic Types of Bad Kissers.
